In that case, just try keeping your submission to relationships – if you only do it with women, and only women you are close to/comfortable with.
You are sexually submissive, and of course you aren’t that way with men. The point is, you shouldn’t be that way with women either unless they expressly consent to and ask for it and it’s appropriate. Treat friends as friends. Treat lovers like lovers.
If your everyday personality is submissive, either show it, or hide it in a gender neutral way if you feel you must hide it. Women do not like being treated differently from your other friends.